Is reaching orgasm the be-all and end-all of having sex? [Jezebel]
Against living with a partner. I’ve never lived with a partner—hell, I’ve never had someone I felt at ease enough with to call a partner—but I’ve lived with two housemates and my family and, like Randa Jarrar writes in the first paragraphs of her piece, there is nothing more tedious than talking domesticity. I’d imagine that goes double when the person you’re speaking about it with is your partner.
When I listen to my long-married colleagues or new parent friends talk about their mundane day-to-days I want to hang myself. It’s so much easier to not have to think about someone else when it comes to “buy[ing] flowers, wash[ing] underwear, mak[ing] tea, [then] have a lover stay over and leave… so I can miss them.” But maybe that’s my selfishness coming out. I’m still not at a point in my life where I can factor in the needs of another person above or equal to my own. [The Toast]
Men: women’s hair, makeup and fashion aren’t about you. [Feministing]
Charmed and sisterhood. [The Hairpin]
Queering lucha libre. [The Hairpin]
The year in rape. [WaPo]
Advice for writing about people you know and love:
“If you have a story that you want to tell, but you’re afraid that someone in your life is going to feel wounded, whether that feeling is justified or not, fair or not, tell it anyway. You can’t worry about every possible reaction when you’re writing, because then you’re censoring yourself. There is a time to be sensitive to other people’s feelings, but that’s not when you’re writing.” [Rookie]
Rachel Hills has just started a newsletter: sign up for updates on her blog, book and more! [Emails of an Inappropriate Woman]
Junkee‘s top stories of the year. And see what I wrote for them in 2014 here.
Meet the doctor helping to provide abortions to women by sea and via post in countries where they’re illegal. [Jezebel]
Image via Giphy.