Why isn’t Kanye West a gay icon? [MTVNews]
What porn and wrestling have in common: a lack of unions. [In These Times]
Image via Netflix.
Why isn’t Kanye West a gay icon? [MTVNews]
What porn and wrestling have in common: a lack of unions. [In These Times]
Image via Netflix.
And that’s a good thing, because so many wrestlers that have come before have been chewed up and spit out by the gruelling lifestyle, which I wrote about in the wake of Chyna’s death for The Big Smoke.
I also ponder whether you can be a feminist and a wrestling fan (which I’ve written about before) for SBS Zela.
Of over 105 trans female characters portrayed on TV since 1965, only 20 of them were actually played by trans actors, mostly Alexandra Billings, Candis Cayne and Laverne Cox. [Autostraddle]
In praise of the angry woman. [LA Times]
We need both Jessica Jones and Supergirl. [Comics Alliance]
“We need to make more white people uncomfortable. We need to make white people uncomfortable more of the time. We need to decentre whiteness so living in a diverse world does not equal discomfort for anyone. It takes white people literally one second of not seeing themselves reflected for them to mount a campaign against the world claiming they have been victimised. Yet, white people have been demanding people of colour identify through whiteness for centuries.” [Kevin Allred]
You don’t have to be a monster to hate women. [HuffPo Women]
ICYMI: I assert that TERFS and SWERFS aren’t radical feminists.
It’s a film and TV theory kind of week!
I wrote about how Keeping Up with the Kardashians, I Am Cait and Total Divas are changing the face of reality TV. [Junkee]
Black representation on Daria. [Vulture]
Queering Freaky Friday. [Feminartsy]
With Supergirl, Jessica Jones and Daredevil, has TV finally solved its superhero problem? [Studio 360]
Emotional labour as women’s work. [The Guardian]
Lest We Forget: the service animals of war. [The Big Issue]
“Grey Hair on the Kids.” [Mediander]
I have a story on how the tag team New Day are challenging gender and racial stereotypes in professional wrestling in Calling Spots magazine.
I moved all my articles from TheVine over to this here blog so check them out:
Masters of Sex may be titled after a man, but it’s all about the women on the show.
“… Be conventionally attractive and feminine, and you get reduced to your appearance like any cis woman; don’t, and people won’t accept your identity as legitimate.” [Vocativ]
I asked if Kris Jenner is a bad mother. [Bitch Flicks]
The age gap between some of Hollywood’s most in demand young actresses—Scarlett Johansson, Emma Stone and Jennifer Lawrence—and their much older on-screen love interests. [Vulture]
How Mansplaining, the Statue went viral. [Weird Sister]
To ladyblog or not to ladyblog? [Slate]
The language we use to speak about rape may be part of the problem.
Sport is the “great equaliser”. Except when it comes to race:
“Indigenous players are ‘Australians when they’re winning and Aborigines at other times.'” [Overland]
To all those busybodies who enquire when you’re going to have children: “I am writing my final no-thank-you note.” [Longreads]
I wrote about Katy Perry’s insistence on appropriating other cultures.
I’m also at Bitch Flicks writing about physical and mental health on Orange is the New Black.
Still with OITNB, Morello has such a fractured relationship with romance she’s in prison for stalking her faux-fiancé.
“I Scream, You Scream, We All Scream for Feminism!” [Bitch Flicks]
The racial and sexual politics of Hitch. [The Hairpin]
Race & Religion.
Racism in the job network. [The Koori Woman]
Where was the Native American representation at this years’ San Diego ComicCon? [The Travelling Unicorn]
Racism in the digital age. [The Anti-Bogan]
Qantas’ Recognise campaign “seems to be little more than corporate endorsements and photo opportunities for powerful figures to prove how much they like us.” [Rantings of an Aboriginal Feminist]
And she’s not the only one who’s got a problem with the campaign. [New Matilda]
“What is a Moderate Muslim, Anyway?” [Redefining the Narrative]
Navigating Islam and feminism in the 21st century. [Days Like Crazy Paving]
Evelyn Enduatta writes about “a pivotal time in the local history of my adoptive Yolŋu family…. [and] the introduction of wage labour relations in north-east Arnhem Land[;]… a case study in the nature and violence of alienation.” [Upswell]
“Just because you’re Aboriginal doesn’t mean you have to have an ‘Aboriginal’ job.” [ The Travelling Unicorn]
Violence Against Women. *trigger warning*
Clementine Ford sheds light on the savage beating of adult actress Christy Mack by her mixed martial arts fighter ex-boyfriend War Machine. [Daily Life]
There’s probably domestic violence in your workplace. [Women’s Agenda]
Examining the link between animal abuse and intimate partner violence. [SMH]
How liveable are our cities if women aren’t safe? [Daily Life]
Rape culture in politics. [The Hand Mirror]
Instead of devising beauty products that help women prevent their rapes, maybe we should be telling men not to rape. [National Union of Students Women’s Department]
Thinking about trans identities in primary school. [Sal Gold Said So]
Sex & Relationships.
The infamous Brocklesnitch (aka Rebecca Shaw) on those “marriage vouchers”:
“Perhaps it might be more useful for the Government to focus more on things like housing affordability, availability of jobs, and letting young people access the welfare system rather than funnel millions of dollars into a counselling voucher scheme.” [SBS]
So Sam de Brito wrote a column about seeking the female orgasm and Junkee ridiculed it thusly.
Asexuality: the next sexual orientation frontier. [Cosmopolitan]
Physical & Mental Health *trigger warning*.
Going undercover as a surrogate mother. [Daily Life]
Working with ichthyosis. [Carly Findlay]
In the wake of Robin Williams’ suicide asking RUOK is not the answer. [Culture, Nurture, Nature: Views, Reviews, Rants]
Another thoughtful response to Williams’ death. [The Hand Mirror]
Clem Bastow writes heartbreakingly about never being “enough”:
“You don’t tell your boyfriend, or your parents, or your friends, or your kind therapist that you’re thinking about all these things, because you figure it’s not worth being upset about after all these years, even though you are. You see people go through far worse things and continue the ‘It could have been much worse!’ charade, even though some days you feel so sad you want to lie down on the carpet for a week. Why can’t you just get over it? Why can’t you Think Positive About It All? Why would anyone write you a letter about such small things that it’s not worth being upset about, Dear Young Person?
“Young Person, you think a lot about all of these things. There are so many others: you laugh off your Bipolar 2 diagnosis as ‘the straight-to-video sequel to a real mental illness’; your plummeting weight during a two-year spell overseas is just ‘Los Angeles, lol!’; the nights you eat Vitamin C tablets for dinner are fine because ‘Other people are poorer’; the guy who makes you wear a horse-bit to bed is ‘great comedy material!’; the death of your dear dog at just five years of his young life ‘isn’t as bad as it would have been if he’d been around for 15 years, I guess.’ It never seems to be quite enough to be upset about, not really, truly upset, like some people have the right to be. Not poor enough, not depressed enough, not beset by grief enough, not abused enough.” [I Believe You, It’s Not Your Fault]
Blindness in speculative fiction. [ A.C. Buchanan]
My Decision/Kei a au te Whakataunga is a New Zealand-based campaign to shed light on health care professionals who refuse to provide or refer productive health services. [The Hand Mirror]
And there’s no shame in making these health care professionals known so that people in need of reproductive health care don’t make the mistake of visiting them. [The Hand Mirror]
“Abortions Don’t Cause Cancer Any More Than Parties Do.” [The Conversation]
Women in the Workplace.
“There’s a bigger debate to be had here about whether care work is valued enough (it’s not), whether the needs of children are prioritised appropriately (they’re not), and whether the desire by both men and women to spend time with their children is accepted (it’s not), but let’s at least agree that eliminating child care struggles is crucial for undoing sexist gender-role divisions. Where women can’t get to work they can’t achieve personal career goals, but nor can they claim the kind of decision making power that comes with income.” [Daily Life]
Australia still has an equal pay problem. [Women’s Agenda]
On the persistence of the pay gap: from penal colony to glass ceiling. [UNSW School of Business]
Ban bossy, be the boss. [Daily Beast]
It’s all well and good to feature a panel about the politics of sex work as part of Sydney’s Festival of Dangerous Ideas, but perhaps it should, I don’t know, feature some sex workers? [Sex, Lies & Duct Tape]
Miscellaneous & General Feminism.
Melbourne schoolgirls were inspired to Kickstart their own “feminist collective” in the wake of Women Against Feminism and after “studying the character of ‘Curly’s Wife’ in John Steinbeck’s Of Mice & Men.” [ABC]
Friday Hoyden: Emma Goldman. [Hoyden About Town]
Diversity and rebellion in Life at 9. [Hoyden About Town]
How to home school a preschooler. [Free Range in Suburbia]
Five reasons why Women Against Feminism actually need feminism. [The Conversation]
Are men better writers than women? No, they just have more time to write. [Overland]
More on protesting the World Congress of Families. [Gladly, The Cross-Eyed Bear]
The problem with limited-edition, girl-focused Lego. [Hoyden About Town]
“After reading all of Gillard’s statements on this issue and after speaking to those who have talked to her about it, I am convinced she doesn’t believe in marriage at all, for anyone.” [ABC Unleashed]
“But I think the most serious problem with this argument is that it reinforces the idea that we need an excuse to be queer. As a result, using this line subtly supports the idea that being queer requires excusing in some way. Don’t use it. Don’t allow straight people to generate an understanding of queer sexuality that sounds like: ‘Well, of course Bob wouldn’t wish to be queer, but he was born this way. I guess we better give him equal rights—poor Bob, he just can’t help it. We shouldn’t punish him for something he didn’t choose!’
“Meanwhile the real reason that you shouldn’t punish Bob for queerness is because there’s nothing wrong with it!” [Social Justice League]
If you’re unfamiliar with the personhood debate, or just unclear on what it all means, this article by Jill Filipovic is a must-read. [Guardian]
Here’s another great article on Personhood and what it means for abortion laws:
“… As the Personhood message penetrates, then society will understand why women need to be punished just as surely as they understand why there can be no exceptions for rape/incest [bolded text mine].” [Salon]
Why Kyle Sandilands is a dickhead. [The Punch]
“Rethinking the Strong Female Character.” [Canonball]
“27 & Unmarried? In China, You’re One of the ‘Leftover Women’.” Gah, only three years left for me! [Jezebel, Ms. Magazine]
What White Ribbon Day means for men. [MamaMia]
Knowing all the evils facing women in our society, would you want to bring a baby girl into the world? [Jezebel]
“Eve as Literary Hero”. [Imagine Today]
On being single. [Girls Are Made from Pepsi]
Gah! “Pro-Life Feminism is the Future”. [Washington Post]
Images via Jezebel, Lara Croft Tomb Raider Costume Resource.
Ralliers outside the State Library on Swanston Street.
Best. Sign. Ever.
Last Saturday the highly anticipated SlutWalk occurred in several Australian cities, and I attended the Melbourne event with my fellow anti-slut-shamer friend Laura (both of us below).
We rocked up in our sluttiest outfits, which you can see above, complete with permanent marker declarations of our proud sluthood to boot. Some of the other outfits we noticed were short skirts with knee-high skull print socks and customised Doc Martins, worn by event organiser Clem Bastow (below), lace dresses and gym gear, the latter of which adorned a short-haired tattoo fan with a body Tracy Anderson would envy.
As Bastow commented when she gave one of the opening addresses, along with fellow event organisers Karen Pickering and Lauren Clair, and noted feminists Monica Dux (above) and Leslie Cannold, amongst others: “thank you, God, it looks like you’re going to rain on me”. But no one was gonna rain on our parade and, despite the chilly temperatures, we still walked tall and proud in whatever get-ups we chose to wear.
Dux said this is the beginning of a movement, which I have to disagree with. SlutWalk is not the beginning of a movement; it is part of the reignited battle to stop victim-blaming and slut-shaming based on one cop’s archaic musings on rape and how much a woman was “asking for it”. Here’s a fun fact: WE’RE NEVER ASKING FOR IT! (See Bastow’s sign, above). No matter how we are dressed, where we are, how much we’ve had to drink, or what we do for work.
Speaking of, I was really proud to see the representation of sex workers at the event, and president of the Australian Sex Workers’ Association, the Scarlet Alliance (represent!), Elena Jeffreys (above) spoke about her sexual assault and that even though she was paid for sex, she was not consenting to assault. Her opinions on the SlutWalk were really interesting and I hope they receive as much publicity as the negative perceptions of the rally have in the media.
In the days leading up to SlutWalk, I was embroiled in a heated debate on Facebook with a friend who disagrees with the SlutWalk. I think he confused—like a lot of people—the meaning of the SlutWalk with an excuse to get gussied up in a very risqué manner when, in fact, that was not at all what it was about. That didn’t stop protestors on the steps of Parliament House at the top of Bourke Street brandishing their “rape is horrifying, but so is immodesty” placards (above). Like one of the speakers (whose identity escapes me: should have used my BlackBerry voice recorder!) said: it’s not up to us to curb our behaviour (and that includes how we choose to dress) at the risk of potentially being sexually assaulted; it’s up to those who sexually assault to curb their behaviour!
I think most people against the SlutWalk had a problem with the use of the word slut. As Cannold said, “words matter…: … we won’t stand for one, the same one, being slung at us over and over again to demean and degrade us.” Lori Adelman, in a post on Feministing, said she didn’t agree with the term “slut” and that she “would much rather have attended a ‘Do Not Rape’ Walk”:
“I find that the term disproportionately impacts women of colour and poor women in order to reinforce their status as inherently dirty and second-class, and hence more rape-able.”
To me, “slut” is just a word. It meant as much to me to be called a slut when I was 12 as it does today; as they (and Rihanna) say, sticks and stones will break my bones but names can never hurt me. It’s not about the term “slut”, it’s about the backwards and extremely offensive views that go along with that word. As coordinator of the first SlutWalk in Toronto, Sonya Barnett, told Rachel Hills: “if he [the policeman] had said something else, we would have called it something else.”
The speaker who garnered the most attention, though, was transgendered man, Cody Smith (above), who had been raped both as a biological female, and as a trans man. There were tears a plenty during his speech!
It was nice to see such a welcoming, non-judgmental turnout of everyday men, women and children of all walks of life, wearing all sorts of garb, not just the fishnetted and cut-out body con dresses that certain attendees chose to wear (guilty as charged!). After all, rape is not about what you’re wearing, what you look like, what size you are, how old you are, what your sexual orientation or gender is, or any other denomination that you happen to belong to as a person. It is about the perpetrator, and nothing you can or cannot do will stop them from attempting to rape you.
As Smith said, it shouldn’t be the victims of sexual assaults’ responsibility to educate the general public on sexual assault and victim-blaming. And I thought the sexual revolution happened several decades ago: it shouldn’t be up to members of a fringe movement to educate the general public on the sexual rights of women to express themselves however they please without the threat of retaliation. In fact, feminism—which is what the SlutWalk was all about—shouldn’t be considered as on the fringe in 2011.
Black and white images via Ali Ryan Photography.
“Yet here the discerning viewer notes that something is wrong. Because it is a simply matter of fact that in this car all the good seats have already been taken. For Rebecca Black (her name here would seem to evoke Rosa Parks, a mirroring that will only gain in significance) there is no actual choice, only the illusion of choice.
“The viewer knows that she’ll take the only seat that’s offered to her…”
The Awl even goes so far as to say Black’s relationship with the rapper in her “Friday” clip might be Lolita-esque, and that the video is a commentary on “a crypto sex scene from which we return to the suburban house party”. Creepy.
I hate answering the phone. When I lived at home, I would never answer the landline when it rang. Now that I fend for myself and can only afford one phone, I only answer numbers I recognise. So does Pamela Paul, via MamaMia.
Lucy Ormonde asks if it’s acceptable for women to make the first move. My answer: hell yes! Otherwise I would never get any action!
It’s okay to be “fat”, just as long as it’s in the right places, ie. bum, hips and boobs, allowing for a small waist, à la Kim Kardashian and Christina Hendricks.
After reading this review, I can’t wait to see Sucker Punch: a “Burlesque meets Inception” amalgamation of “bustiers, fishnets and glitter instead of asylum uniforms” where Vanessa Hudgens, Abbie Cornish et al’s characters reside in the film. These are just some “of the many clues that we are not actually inside the mind of a young girl, but inside Zach Snyder’s spank bank!”
Perhaps it could have been titled something else, but “How to Be Skinny” has some good points.
“She’s certainly not a loser, based on her many accomplishments. Having a baby doesn’t instantly turn you into a winner. If you feel like a loser for not having a baby, that is your personal truth, but it is not The Truth. And! The fact that so many media outlets picked up this one sentence segment—from a long cover story with quotes about divorce, high heels and Lady Gaga—shows that we, the public are the real losers, for placing so much importance on how a woman uses her uterus.”
“‘Thanks for joining us tonight Mr. Bieber. What are your views on climate change? How do you feel about Iraq? And what do you think of the criticism levied against the parents of the Columbine shooters?’”
Is gay marriage really the hallmark of society’s downfall? Not according to this fab pie chart.
Charlie Sheen, Mel Gibson, John Galliano et al: our obsession with celebs behaving badly.
Sarah Ayoub-Christie likens the freelance market to war, via Lois Lane, on The New Adventures of Superman. I’m inclined to agree!
Today’s celebrity perfumers could take a lesson from the late Liz Taylor in personal branding.
90% of Facebook users take note: “Ten Words You Need to Stop Misspelling.”
The fashion life cycle of the meat dress.
Images via Democratic Underground, Graph Jam, Feministing, The Awl.